The idea that there are only two possible genders and that those genders are rigid and fixed is an organising principle of life in most modern societies. It affects everything, from how we dress to whom we can marry and what work we get to do to whether or not we will be paid for that work.
Discussion of conditions such as intersexuality threatens all that. It gives the lie to the gender binary, exposing it as not just flawed, but scientifically inaccurate. And so we carry on shoving intersex and transgender folk to one side and forcing everyone who isn’t “normal” to damn well act that way or face harassment, discrimination and violence, from the playground to the pulpit.
When Tess Morgan’s son came home with a tattoo, she was griefstricken. She knew her reaction was OTT (he’s 21) but it signalled a change in their relationship
this is the funniest thing i’ve read in my life
i just LOVE hearing about uptight petit-bourgeois mothers getting THIS UPSET about something SO HARMLESS. god, and if it doesn’t reveal how she sees her son - not as a person, but as a belonging, as commenters have remarked.
omfg this is incredible
"I stand, a lone tyrannosaurus, bellowing at a world I don’t understand."
This is my family. There has NEVER been a better example of my family. I think my dad more so than my mom considering my brother has a very hidden small tattoo that even though I don’t think my mom likes that he has it, she doesn’t criticize him for it. Of course I wonder if I’d be treated the same were I to get a tattoo, as I plan on doing. Is it because my brother is a cismale that they expect him to rebel, get piercings, and “ruin” his life? But this is just considering tattoos. This was my mother’s exact reaction upon me coming out. I was no longer a person whose life wasn’t my parent’s to control, but an idealized concept were my physical body seems to have been the only important factor to me. My ideals, my mental health, any chance for my own happiness, well, those of course are second to what my parent’s want for me. I am apparently “selfish” for thinking I have control over my own life and identity.
Leonardo: Truth be told, it’s been difficult for me to settle. Painting is nice, but I often feel like my work lacks… I don’t know… purpose. Does that make sense? I’d rather contribute more practically. More directly, Architecture, perhaps. Or anatomy. I’m not content to merely to capture the world. I want to change it.
Maria: Oh, Leonardo! I have no doubt you’ll go on to do great things!
Leonardo: Vi ringrazio, Madonna. (I thank you.) That’s kind of you.